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Maintaining a positive attitude is probably what most of us are searching for in life. After all, the personal development gurus always mentioned that your attitude in life determines your altitude in life.

As easy as it may sound, however maintaining a positive attitude does required some hard work from our part.

Do you know what exactly constitutes a positive attitude? I am quite surprised that many people do not exactly know what the word “attitude” actually means.

And thus, that brings us to:

Positive Attitude Help #1:

You cannot manage what you cannot understand. Thus, the first step to you improving on your attitude is to know what constitutes an attitude. Attitude is defined as a complex mental state involving beliefs, feelings, values and dispositions to act in certain ways. To change your attitude, you have to put work hard on your belief and value systems and your emotional IQ. And now, having know what you can change, lets move on to?

Positive Attitude Help #2:

Recognize who you want to associate more often and who you want to limit your association. As much as we want to, not all relationships are created equally. Birds of the same feathers flock together.

Positive Attitude Help #3:

Know how to deal with your time. Everyone is given 24 golden nuggets per day, no one is exempted. Therefore it is up to us to decide how we want to utilize them to further improve our life and the lives of others. Learn to manage your commitments, avoid over-committing yourself to urgent yet unimportant issues.

Positive Attitude Help #4:

If you noticed, having a great attitude in life involves great amount of mind power. Possessing a positive attitude all starts in the mind. A healthy, positively charged mind will atomically translate to a positive outlook of life.

And to own a healthy mind, one has to first own a healthy physical body which evolves from having a healthy lifestyle. Learn how to effectively manage the stress in your life, refrain from any potentially harmful drugs and getting a moderate amount of exercise very week are some of the examples how one can build a healthy mind and physical body to attain a positive attitude and outlook of life.

Like every other skills, nurturing a positive attitude in life requires some work from your part. You have to actively seek to replace your limiting beliefs and negative self talks with more empowering and positively-charged ones.

The 4 positive attitude help formulas can only lay the foundation for you. However, you still have to “do your own pushups” should you want to see astonishing miracles in your life, literally.

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We all know time is precious but, let’s examine the somewhat strange idea of ‘Time Killers’. There are numerous time killers in this world and what you have to do is identify these time killers, look out for them and stay wary of them. Only then can you put your available time to the maximum possible use.

The killers that I am referring to are quite ordinary every day things that we see and use in our lives but often do not realize how much of our time they take up.

Some terrible Time Killers:
Telephone calls
Chatter boxes
Traffic jams
Finding parking spaces
Meetings
Bad machinery
Long queues

The list could, of course, go on and on. But before we keep adding to the list, I would like to elaborate on certain of the items listed above.

How to handle Time Killers.
Telephone calls.
The funny thing about telephone calls is that these instruments are indeed great time savers. The problem arises when telephones are not used properly. Most people do not understand and even if they do they forget that telephones are not to be used for lengthy conversations. A fundamental of a telephone conversation is that it should be short.

Now coming to mobile phones there is a lot to be said and done. Turn off your cell phone when you are having a conversation or a discussion with more than one person. Often we tend to give more importance to the caller than to the person we were having the discussion with. Again the same rule applies here. Be brief. A mobile phone is to be used to get an important message across to someone who you were not able to reach on the land line.

The next point is about those chatter boxes. Steer clear of such people. Believe me, it is much easier to avoid such people than to tell them to shut up and if you get a telephone call from such a person, use a caller ID facility or ask your secretary to divert the call.

Traffic jams and finding parking spaces.
Any one who has lived in the city for at least a day will know what I am talking about. There is no getting past a traffic jam at the rush hour. And will someone tell me why it is called the rush hour when that is the time when the traffic is the slowest and rush hour seems to last two or three hours!
The only thing you can do is anticipate the traffic jam and leave your home a half hour or one hour early. But that does not really keep the time killer at bay. It just helps you to avoid being late. In this respect you have two options. Either you could find something constructive to do while you wait for the traffic to move along or the traffic light to change or a better option would be to take subway and walk the rest of the way. You can get a long a lot faster on your feet and it is a lot better for your health as well.
By doing so, you can also get rid of the headache of finding a parking space.

Not surprisingly lengthy meetings and discussions can prove to be awful time killers particularly if the meeting does not have a clear agenda and if there are people who love to talk among the group. It has been found that most middle and senior level mangers spend nearly 70% of their work time talking. And in most organizations, parleying has been turned into a fine art.

Bad machinery is a time waster. How many of us have wanted to sit and scream and bang the daylights out of a pc that does not give us the required data or information. A computer that takes a long time to start up, a photocopier that gives shamefully faint photocopies, even a leaky faucet or a stubborn drawer or door knob can waste a lot of time and send us up the wall. If you have such equipment or machinery, get it changed at the earliest possible date. It is worth the amount of time and energy that you waste on it every day.

Long queues certainly waste a lot of time. That does not mean that you have to jump the queue. If you can get the job done over the telephone or can reserve your ticket in advance, do it, even if it means a few extra dollars, it is worth the time you may have to spend waiting.

Apart from these each person may have particular time wasters, like for instance, a car that refuses to start in the morning, difficult hair that insists on looking like Medusas head on a bad snake day, an elevator that takes for ever to reach your floor. Use your common sense and try to find alternate methods or even better, if you cannot find an alternate method, you could put the time to some use like read your morning paper in the elevator.

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Happiness is actually found in everyone. However, as the time goes by, as a matured adult, we find it increasingly difficult to win back our happiness.

The fact is happiness has never eluded you. All along, it has been hidden deep inside you. You just failed to recognize it, that’s all. Being happy is a choice and it really depends on how we choose to be happy and the choices we make day in and day out which raises to our happiness scale.

Abraham Lincoln observed that we humans have the ability to decide how happy or how stressed, how relaxed or how troubled we want our lives to be.

Since you are reading this, your choice is already very clear. This is how we choose to be happy. You choose to be happy today!

Here are some simple choices which you can make to you stumbling upon happiness:

Stumbling Upon Happiness – Pick 1

Showing gratitude is an attitude. By sincerely demonstrating gratitude to the countless wonderful things in life, not only will you help yourself focus more on the positive events, which in turn make the Law of Attraction works in your favor.

Take some time every night to write down at least 10 things which you are grateful for today. Try to include different people you meet in the day and recall what they have done to help you better yourself. Do not write the same events as what you have written in the previous days.

Stumbling Upon Happiness – Pick 2

If you are addicted to news and is finding it hard to start your day without your daily dosage of news, then it is probably time to get less of it. Think of the news you read about in the newspapers or reported in the various medias today. Are the majority of them good news or bad news? The truth is 99% of what we read or see is negative news. Obviously, if you choose to stay happy, you will not want to start your day filling your mind with negativity, will you?

Stumbling Upon Happiness – Pick 3

Time management is not only useful in making you more productive in your work. It can also contribute greatly to your happiness. Unlike money, time is something that we can never earned back no matter what we do. By learning how to manage your time well, you will become more productive and accomplish more in your life. In any case, your happiness does come from your accomplishments, don’t they?

Stumbling Upon Happiness – Pick 4

Put back the long lost laughter and smile back into you. Smile to other people when you see them. Thank them with a wide smile and you will be answered back with one too. After all, smiles are contiguous.

Stumbling Upon Happiness – Pick 5

Maintain good relationships with other people. Part of your happiness comes from being able to express your feelings and affections to other people. Keep an open mind when discussing difficult issues with others and try to understand others in their viewpoint.

To stay happy, stay in love!

What’s important is not how we choose to be happy, rather we have made the choice to be happy.

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Cosmic Ordering and Old Time Justice

A man in the Old West was being tried for stealing a horse. You need to remember that stealing a horse in the Old West was a very grave and serious offence. A person could be hanged if found guilty of such a deed.

It so happened that the man whose horse had been stolen had always made it a point to get the best of any person with whom he had any dealings. He had never tried to do anything good for anyone other than himself. Consequently, the man whose horse had been stolen didn’t have a single friend in the entire town. The case was tried and presented to the jury. The evidence against the accused man was pretty strong. The jury returned to the court chambers. “Gentlemen of the jury, have you reached a verdict?” The judge asked. The chairman of the jury stood up. “Yes we have, your honour,” he replied.

“What is your verdict?” inquired the judge.

“We find the defendant not guilty if he will return the horse.”

After the judge had silenced the laughter in the courtroom, he admonished the jury. “I cannot accept that verdict. You will have to retire until you reach another verdict,” said the judge. The jury went back into their room to deliberate toward another verdict. No member of the jury had any particular liking for the man whose horse had been stolen. At one time or another he had gotten the best of each of them. About an hour passed before the jury could reach another verdict. They re-entered the courtroom. They took their place in the jury box and the courtroom grew silent.

“Gentlemen of the jury,” began the judge, “have you reached a verdict?” The chairman of the jury stood up.

“Yes we have, your honour,” he replied. “What is your verdict?” asked the judge.

The courtroom was totally silent. You could have heard a pin drop. Everyone eagerly awaited the verdict. The chairman read the decision reached by the twelve good men, tried and true.

“We find the defendant not guilty, and he can keep the horse!” The courtroom burst into laughter!

Moral of the story: If you spend your life trying to take advantage of others, never caring about them in any way except what you can get from them or what they can do for you, you will end up a loser, like the man who lost his horse.

If you desire a friend, then be a friend. If you desire for other people to help you, then help other people.

A CAVEAT

Don’t look at everyone you meet as a ‘meal ticket’ out of your present existence or a money making machine. All what I am saying is that the opportunity is out there and you DO need other people in order to make things work. Think about where different situations could take you, and most of all, never expect something for nothing.

EACH STAGE IS IMPORTANT

Rather than go for something big straightway, use something which I have called a ‘step order’.

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WHAT SETS A SUCCESSFUL COSMIC ORDERER APART FROM OTHERS?

You see, some find the Cosmic Ordering mindset hard to pick up on. It has to do with expectation. You will know from my book ‘Cosmic Ordering Guide’ that I say (write) ‘Always have an air of expectancy’.

We have so many Friends from normal backgrounds wishing to go on to be huge successes and to manifest a million dollars all in go … just like that. Well, as many of you know, it just doesn’t happen like that.

What makes a successful Cosmic Orderer different from those that don’t make the grade or achieve their goals, hopes and dreams for the future?

LET ME SHOW YOU

By just changing the way you do things and without increasing your skill at a particular task you can gain far better results than the norm, just by changing the way you do them.

OPPORTUNITY IS IN ABUNDANCE

Yes, opportunity is all about us, we are surrounded by it … but some of you just cannot see it. I know that might sound a little crass coming from me, after all what have I got to lose by saying that?

Right now, as you read this, the possibilities of achieving whatever you want are all around you. You are about to make that happen for yourself, right now!

FORGET THE FEAR

Forget the fear of not being able to go forward, what is worse than the position you are know in. I mean, you are reading this because you want to move forward and onward to abundance. Many of you are only a few footsteps away from success, and that seems to be the point where you throw in the towel. What you are getting here is something that is impromptu, unplanned and off the cuff. Most of my regular Friends on here know this is how I work.

MISSED OPPORTUNITIES

I know many of you will have a firm belief in ‘positive thinking’, but that is something that should be within you without even working at it. You have to be a positive thinker in order to make this work, that is something that should be a natural thing to happen.

HAVE YOU EVER HAD A DREAM

Of course you have. The longed for promotion, an activity you want to be more proficient at doing, changing things that need to be changed, meeting new friends and even more …you want these things to happen. For some you, it might be a case that you never took the chance to go ahead and do some of these things for fear that you would fault. Just think. What if you had of taken those first few steps towards your dreams and goals all of those years ago!

FORGET THE PAST

Right, now you have examined the past and realized that you never took the bull by the horns or maybe procrastinated over it, now you must forget all about those lot opportunities.

SPOT THE OPPORTUNITY

Within yourself you need to spot the opportunity that is suited to your skills and also look out for situations that are filled with opportunity. Yes, you have to do a little work here, it is not going to present itself to you on a silver salver. However, you have to actually make some sort of conscious effort in manifesting your desires.

WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY FRIENDS

Do you know, we’d all have exactly what we wanted already if we helped each other out a little more. My, my! Sounds like utopia all these people helping each other get what they want! Let me explain what I mean. A scientific study of sorts (that you may or may not already be familiar with) suggests every single person in the world, no matter where they are, what country they’re in or what language they speak, is connected and knows you through a chain of seven people.

To test this theory, they took this random solitary type guy that lives a very solitary life in the mountains of a far off country, and picked out a person from the capital city of England… the London area. In a series of only seven jumps, through research, they managed to get from this person in London, to the solitary guy living in the mountains.

Isn’t that just awesome! Do you know that it means you are only seven people away from the president of the United States, the Pop, in fact anyone you care to think of!

MAKE YOUR IDEAS KNOWN

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that by telling everyone you meet your ides that it will make them happen, but it will expand the chances of using those around you in the world to help make them happen. Don’t wait for an opportunity to come to you, get out there and go for it. How do you think all of the big business people make it happen, they don’t sit at home waiting for it to come tot hem, they go out looking for it.

INCREASE YOUR CHANCES OF SUCCESS

Don’t dream on your own, include your friends and members of your family. They help make contacts, and they assist each other, whether it be an intentional, or purely circumstantial meeting, a big group of people are making sure each other is successful. You have to be able to see the power of this.

Imagine this, you are lying in bed at night and looking up to your darkened ceiling. See it as the Universe, see a shining star in the center of the ceiling, this star represent you! Now see that star encircled by some blue coloured stars, these represent your friends and family. Around these are yellow coloured stars, these are the friends of your friends and family. From that circle repeat the process all over again until your ceiling is full of stars.

Each star represents an opportunity, each star represent a chance to meet, learn from and become mutual successes. I’m not saying that you should go out and hug a stranger and call them your friend, but to each one of these people you have something to offer, as they no doubt have something to offer to you. It would be nice to think that you could make friends with the whole of the world’s population, but in reality it would never happen. However, they’re ready for you to take them in whatever form you wish.

Copyright Stephen Richards

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